What helped me was the analogy of what airlines tell us when oxygen masks drop - help yourself before you help others. I found it a good rule of thumb, to help others only when you have the excess capacity to. Regarding the worry of others not being taken care of, I decided to trust that they are capable human beings who can take care of themselves, and this way of treating them might even be the more respectful way as we are believing in their capabilities (and not seeing them as someone who is helpless and needs to be saved by others)
I knoooow! But my problem is I often misjudged how much I can do. I apparently do too much bc I unconsciously pushing myself to be responsible. Any idea on how to detect it better?
I love your idea on trusting people can take care of themselves
Hmm don’t know if you have similar reactions but I find myself being really cranky or wanting to cry when I’m giving more than I have. Applying the theory of behavioral change, one place to start could be by recognizing your indicators of when you’re over-giving, and so you can then develop the awareness of situations in which you over-give, and then implement a new set of coping mechanisms when similar occasions arise in the future (don’t quote me on this xD) Best of luck Esther! Rooting for you on your journey of living an even more fulfilling life :)
What helped me was the analogy of what airlines tell us when oxygen masks drop - help yourself before you help others. I found it a good rule of thumb, to help others only when you have the excess capacity to. Regarding the worry of others not being taken care of, I decided to trust that they are capable human beings who can take care of themselves, and this way of treating them might even be the more respectful way as we are believing in their capabilities (and not seeing them as someone who is helpless and needs to be saved by others)
I knoooow! But my problem is I often misjudged how much I can do. I apparently do too much bc I unconsciously pushing myself to be responsible. Any idea on how to detect it better?
I love your idea on trusting people can take care of themselves
Hmm don’t know if you have similar reactions but I find myself being really cranky or wanting to cry when I’m giving more than I have. Applying the theory of behavioral change, one place to start could be by recognizing your indicators of when you’re over-giving, and so you can then develop the awareness of situations in which you over-give, and then implement a new set of coping mechanisms when similar occasions arise in the future (don’t quote me on this xD) Best of luck Esther! Rooting for you on your journey of living an even more fulfilling life :)
love this love this! So Minervan hahaha very systematic